jennybones

My initial response is to tell you to RUN FROM THIS ‘Friends w/ Benefits’ situation. I want to tell you to get out now if you hope to save this obviously meaningful friendship, but that’s not fair. I’ve been there. The best advice I can give you is this: don’t downplay your own feelings because of the way he may or may not feel. You say you’re worried he might think you want to get too serious, but is that not what getting out of the friendzone is? You want serious. Don’t feel bad for wanting more. You can’t keep that kind of thing up forever without eventually wanting more. I think (hope) that can be expected. I’d say it’s totally normal. Talk to him about it. You say he’s always been cool, so why not now? You’re friends, afterall. Maybe the fact that you are/have been sleeping together already puts him in a position where he doesn’t think about locking it down. He’s getting the friendship, he’s getting the sex- a lot of guys would consider that the perks of having a girlfriend without the drama of actually committing to having one. REALLY Talk to him and don’t back down just because you don’t want to stop sleeping with him. You have to feel good about the arrangement, too.